strange ejaculation.
He was kneeling there with his cock in his hand, his come dripping down the sides of my breasts. He looked puzzled.
“I came,” he said. “But I didn’t, you know, come.”
I was pretty dazed, so I was having a hard time processing confusing statements.
“What do you mean?”
“I mean I came, but I didn’t have an orgasm.”
We both looked at his cock. I’d heard of the opposite, of someone having an orgasm without ejaculating, but I’d never heard of someone ejaculating without an orgasm. It sounded like a bad situation, like a really unsatisfying sneeze.
“That’s no good,” I said.
We continued to stare at his cock.
“I, uh… I could just put it back in,” he said.
As a general rule, if someone’s been fucking me and I’ve been enjoying it, they can always “just put it back in.”
And then he did come. And when he did, he ejaculated again.
Just when I thought I had a pretty decent grasp on the workings of the male body, something like this happens and I’m mystified.
Well thank god, I’m not the only one! This has happened to me a fair few times, and I thought it was a tad unusual. I shall sleep easier tonight, now.
Nah, actually happens a lot. Putting it back in is always a good option.
this is why i love reading your blog. i also thought it sounded a bit odd. obviously the two readers above me disagree. i never came across this one. somehow, i just get the guys that cant keep it up.
A general rule, a girl can live by.
Fortunately, that never happened to me, although from what I’m reading I guess it wouldn’t have been such a tragedy, if it did. However I must confess that in my early days of sexual activity (with partners other than me, that is) I faked some orgasms – however strange that may sound, if referred to a male: it actually amounted to faking not to have an orgasm first, because of being ashamed of it coming too early. I know it’s stupid, but perhaps I was stupid: plain and simple! Hopefully I got over that. To bring the subject at least slightly on topic, I must say that the “silent” orgasm was much much less pleasurable than a regular one: it actually happened with me trying to stop it, if you know what I mean.
Such a coincidence that you bring this up. The very same thing happened to me last night. I was playing with myself and watching porn. Right as my orgasm approached I let go of my thingy to click the “replay” button on my computer screen. I came, and stuff came out, but there was no orgasm. So I grabbed my weewee and then came again.
This kind of thing can happen if a guy is taking a SSRI. I had an bizarre experience with Paxil several years ago were I would cum and then orgasm in that order, but not at the same time… That was really disconcerting.
I have never ever heard of that, but wow, sounds 1) interesting, 2) not the end of the world. I immediately AIM’d my best guy friend and he told me he’d never heard it either, but proof!
Strange Ejaculation sounds like it should be a song by The Cure.
Great “spur of the moment” decision…like blasar above I’ve faked NOT having an orgasm so as to try to help mylady partner have hers…difficult to finese.
Also recently was on an overnight with my mistress and she as she had a shaving mishap – she had me ejaculate on her breasts…took forever to come…something weird about jacking off with a hot woman watching (and encouraging … a caress on the balls helped considerably).
That’s not uncommon at all, especially if the guy hasn’t ejaculated in a while and is “full,” so to speak. Ejaculation and orgasm two different, though usually interrelated things, btw. The orgasm is the muscular contractions experienced, and ejaculation is the expulsion of semen. Typically, one occurs in conjunction with the other, though not necessarily, as you’ve just seen.
You can stimulate(massage) the prostate for example and cause a guy to ejaculate without experiencing the orgasm. And with Tantric sex, guys are taught how to have an orgasm without ejaculating.
The reason the ejaculation (which, technically, isn’t the right word to describe what your guy experienced) occurs is due to the action of the muscles in the pelvic area – the PC muscles (Kegels). A guy can learn to cause himself to expel semen through just PC muscle action without the “orgasm.” And in this case, all of his muscles doing their thing during intercourse just sort of resulted in that occurring without any conscious action on his part. When he finally did have the muscular orgasm, he ejaculated any semen that was left in his system.
I’ve never heard of that either. But at least he was ready to “put it back in” right away, right?
It can be bizarre, but it happens sometimes. Ejaculation happens, but there’s no mental build-up, no kundalini, no coiled and released energy, no bang zoom. It’s an odd thing, as if the body wants to get the task done but isn’t otherwise engaged in the process.
At least that’s how it feels. I wouldn’t say that it necessarily happens because there’s something unfulfilling from the partner, because it can happen when jacking off too. It’s just one of those weird, rare body things, and usually happens to me if I’m particularly tired.
Interesting stuff. I always learn a lot from these comments.
It has happened to me, but rarely.
Fascinating.
The other day, a man told he just came twice — once without ejaculation, and then about ten seconds later with. I’d heard of male orgasms without ejaculation before, but never experienced it. I wish I knew what it was we did that made it happen. Bodies can be so weird.
Oh, dear God. Now I have something new to worry about…
I don’t think I’ve ever witnessed that happening with a guy, but I have been with men who’ve faked before. It went unsaid – we both knew he was faking but we both went along with it for convenience’s sake. Usually because he was drunk and unable to get off. It’s never happened with anyone I dated for any amount of time. That’s an interesting body twitch, though. I wonder about the physiology of it.
my guy is multi orgasmic which is kind of this in reverse and usually by the third or fourth orgasm he isn’t ejaculating much of anything at all.
seems to me this guy you’re fucking has a decent chance to teach himself to do the same thing…
kinda fun if you aren’t already raw :)
I’ve faked orgasm before— I rarely have orgasms, and it’s hard to say to a girl that one can get an erection with her, but just…not be able to cum. Actually…ejaculating…is just not something I do. Which is a reasonably shameful thing to have to explain to a girl.
There’s a whole subgenre in professional S&M of what is called “orgasm ruining”, where the domme makes the client masturbate but then at a crticial moment does or even just says something that lets him have an ejaculation but leaves him, unlike D.’s indefatigable Young Hero, refractory and unable to proceeed further, and without any of the usual good orgasm feelings. Then he’s sent home to wail and gnash his teeth. This is not a kink that appeals to me, so my knowledge is entirely second hand. But apparently some gents pay good money for it. De gustibus non est disputandum.
Woeful’s post about SSRI’s also caught my attention– I think it varies with the person but they do seem to produce some odd results. I find myself sometimes asking “would I rather be nuts or anorgasmic (is that the right word?) for the next few days”?
@Alexa Re “And with Tantric sex, guys are taught how to have an orgasm without ejaculating.” I thought (or better, had heard) that in Tantric sex one learns how to avoid having an orgasm in the usual sense, but at the same time the pleasure of sexual activity grows and grows so much as to become even more intense than that associated to it, and for prolonged times.
I thought (or better, had heard) that in Tantric sex one learns how to avoid having an orgasm in the usual sense,
Well, an orgasm without ejaculation is avoiding “an orgasm in the usual sense” is it not? ;–)
The two concepts you’ve included in your comment are not mutually exclusive, though. Perhaps this might help:
http://health.mweb.co.za/sex/Gourmet_sex/1253-2443,24496.asp
Somebody, somewhere must’ve made a song out of that post title. David Bowie, or Flight of the Conchords, maybe? Oh, and Alexad’s avy makes me smile – I’ve only seen guys flashing at graduation ceremonies ;)
I am casually involved with a guy who occasionally orgasms without ejaculating. So far in my experience with him it has only happened when I’ve agreed to let him come in my mouth. It’s kind of funny but at the same time slightly awkward, since I’m left with his cock down my throat waiting for his ejaculate, knowing that because of Murphy’s Law the second I open my mouth for a breath will of course be the second he ejaculates.
The interesting thing is that he never realizes when this happens, and only notices that he hasn’t ejaculated once I mention it to him.
It’s a good way to get pregnant, if you’re fooling around with a guy and he ejaculates in you w/out the accompanying orgasm.
Interesting…
I know what fuocorosso’s guy is going through though, with one girl a while ago when I came in her mouth sometimes it felt as if I hadn’t. Must be something to do with not seeing the usual stream of cum, or feeling my cock pulse in my hand as she was doing that for me.
I’m looking forward to using some prostate toys and experiencing orgasms without ejaculation or vice versa.
This is very real. It’s happened to me without the use of tantra. very mind blowing.
that used to happen with my ex…he’d fuck me and pull out too quickly and ejaculate without the actual orgasm. apparently though, if done right, the second ejaculation is accompanied by a much stronger orgasm…
In my later years (since I reached 50) I regularly orgasm without ejaculating – it’s fabulous. I get multiple orgasms and my lover gets much more from my body