Comments on: secret diary of a call girl, existential emptiness, and functionally stupid journalists.

By: It is One of Those Sad Truths… « Provocateuse

It is One of Those Sad Truths… « Provocateuse — Wed, 09 Jul 2008 09:20:11 +0000

[...] less so-I am cold and analytical, so I direct you towards Debauchettes disappointed yet earnest summation of the Showtime series). She brings up a great point in a recent entry, and it’s one I’ve grappled with for [...]

By: three garbled thoughts from my dressing room journal « Red Spine

three garbled thoughts from my dressing room journal « Red Spine — Sun, 06 Jul 2008 04:51:04 +0000

[...] question. It is somewhat uncomfortable for me. I really like how in a recent post debauchette asks, “how about the possibility that some of us have professional-strength sex drives?” But she’s talking about escorting. She’s talking about actually fucking people, and [...]

By: Callie Simms

Callie Simms — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 12:25:17 +0000

Hi Jane:

I have read the posts about the show on a lot of ladies’ only boards and it seems all the women love the show. So I broke down, got show time and watched it. Thoroughly disappointed I was. I stumbled on this post, via Facebook, and felt you nailed it. The show missed the most important aspect of being a sex worker, dealing with day-to day-compartmentalization of “real life” and adult life. If you miss everything else, how can you miss that? Well, by producing something hollow.

By: isabellablue

isabellablue — Sat, 28 Jun 2008 09:23:16 +0000

Hello Beautiful!

“When I watched the Belle de Jour show (I’ve already forgotten the name and I can’t be bothered to scroll up), it brought up memories of this, and it conveys – to me, at least – a fairly hollow existence.”

I cannot sleep and have been catching up on things … like your blog. I just watched several of the eight (?) episodes yesterday! It’s taken awhile for me to watch it as I really thought they’d royally fuck up her blog. Pleased to report there weren’t any shopping sprees or spa retreats with painfully handsome and rich clients. As a matter a fact, I think she’s down right lonely and depressed. Right on, Showtime!

I can only imagine whom they courted and reeled in as consultants for the writers. Too many catch phrases and truth for there not to be super interested whores ready to spill their own experiences.

Anyway, I told a friend yesterday that I was happy with the show, but somehow there was something seriously missing. It felt “hollow”. So here I come to Debauchette and she says, “and it conveys – to me, at least – a fairly hollow existence.”

Why do I even bother? You’ve got it all figured out … about ten steps before I do, My Dear.

PS … I have to tell you I read your post and the comments that followed as quickly as possible so I’m sure I missed something and am repeating stuff.

Take care of you!
Big hugs!
IB ;)

By: Being Amber Rhea » Blog Archive » 5th Feminist Carnival of Sexual Freedom and Autonomy

Tue, 24 Jun 2008 02:51:00 +0000

[...] has an amazing, must-read post about representation of sex workers in media and pop culture. Hint: it always falls into a simplistic, black-and-white non-argument, with actual sex workers [...]

By: Mica

Mica — Fri, 20 Jun 2008 18:27:39 +0000

This is a great conversation. Many of you obviously have very strong opinions about the show and may want to revisit it or if you have never seen it you should check it out here:

http://www.sho.com/site/vip/home.do?source=m_sdcg1_blogs_june08_vipeps

By: Aesh

Aesh — Fri, 20 Jun 2008 17:17:35 +0000

D-

I hate to be the one defending the journalist here, but I took the line “indulges the common male fantasy that whores truly enjoy prostitution” differently than you did. I completely agree that it’s a complex issue, and that simplification creates problems and distorts reality. I think the concern of the author is that a program that unabashedly displays the main character enjoying her job reinforces an incorrect assumption; that is, she worries that without anything else to counter-balance that image it encourages men to assume that *all* sex workers enjoy what they are doing. And that’s clearly not true.

But I’ll never know what the author truly meant, so that’s all I’ll say. ;)

–Aesh

By: Natalie

Natalie — Fri, 20 Jun 2008 02:11:48 +0000

I’ve been reading you for a while, but this is the first time I’ve had the balls to comment:

Honestly? I think the journalist to which you are referring is probably subconsciously jealous of you. We, as a society, are brought up to believe sex is a naughty, bad thing, and for a woman (especially) to actually enjoy it and seek it out is unheard of. You have a freedom that many of us secretly desire.

By: sex for hire « [write something witty here]

sex for hire « [write something witty here] — Thu, 19 Jun 2008 08:16:27 +0000

[...] a great write up from the blog Boinkology which links to a great piece written by Debauchette. There’s also these thoughts from $pread Magazine, a magazine “for and by sexworkers [...]

By: Athena

Athena — Thu, 19 Jun 2008 05:10:02 +0000

I didn’t watch the show, mostly because to my friends who know what I do, I didn’t want to answer all their new questions of “is that what it’s really like? But even those who know what I do, they don’t know anything about how I operate, and nor would I give them any information. But so far, it sounds like it could have been my first few weeks, or anyday after that in which I was tired.