so you want a courtesan…
Interesting fall-out from Mr. Weiss’ piece: I’m getting requests from men who’d like to be clients. A lot of requests, requests I didn’t believe were genuine at first. I’m flattered, but there’s no way I’m taking clients through my blog.
The moment I take a client through my blog, my blog changes. It becomes a marketing tool, whether I intend it to be or not. My guts are in this blog, it’s personal and sometimes raw, and it’s not a place where I’d like those worlds to mix. I’m also a walking liability. The fact you were able to find me is enough of an indication that I’m too visible. So I’ve cut my clients loose, and it’s best to consider me retired.
Related: please don’t write to me insisting that you will, one day, fuck me. That’s creepy.
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I’m in London and still swimming with jetlag. More on London soon.
For now, I’ll just mention that I love the comment discussion in the sex & monogamy post, and I’ll go ahead and link it in the sidebar. I also want to refer you to a podcast over at Slate discussing Weiss’ piece. It’s interesting. (Thank you, Axe, for pointing this out to me.) The Weiss article is here.
I liked the Weiss article… As a male d’un certain age, I do know he feels (though I’m single)… The responses at Slate, alas, were predictable and snippy.
It’s interesting to me how the active women bloggers I know adamantly do not want to meet partners, clients, through their blog. Which is 180 degrees from some male bloggers I know.
The thing that struck me about the Weiss article and here is the tone of the commenting. So very different. I’m wondering what the fallout for Mr. Weiss will be.
The Sex 2.0 gang on Twitter says hi – come by and say hi. Safe travels and hugs.
For the record, Miss V, I do like to meet people through my blog. However, most of them are idiots so don’t get past the email stage.
I thought the weiss article was bullshit and a very long winded way to excuse treating those you profess to love with out the respect due to intelligent adults perfectly capable of deciding what sort of relationship they want to be in.
be monogamous or don’t be. don’t espouse one set of rules publicly and live by another. it’s dishonest, unethical, immature and weak. be brave enough to live the life you believe in.
sorry for the rant…
I think that’s a bit unfair, Kate. Either you’re someone who finds it easy to conform or someone who doesn’t have something to lose by maintaining appearances. To say that you and society SHOULD accept who you really are is not to say that society DOES. And rather than blame the victim in some of these cases, you should instead concentrate on what the causes of this pattern are. If Weiss is wrong, then who is right? Can you cite your source?
I must confess I am one of those who linked in from a news article at the height of debauchette’s noteriety; yet I have stuck around and found an amazingly complex writer… thank you dear… and please do not go away…
What Viviane said… and overall, I hope you are well. It seems like you’ve had an inordinate amount of bullshit to deal w/ lately.
Yes – meeting people via your blog is a BAD idea. I know…