Comments on: my ring.

By: debauchette

debauchette — Sun, 09 Mar 2008 17:11:37 +0000

Chuck — It’s safe to assume, by default, that my clients have a wedding ring somewhere. In some sense, I’m paid not to care. And since I’m paid not to care, I never really notice, one way or the other.

And I couldn’t agree more, LuckySeven. So true.

By: LuckySeven

LuckySeven — Sun, 09 Mar 2008 09:01:03 +0000

“being resistant to marriage for the wrong reasons.”

yeah, this is the trap of self-awareness – we can suspect ourselves of wrong motives when, in fact, the relationship is still one that needs to be left. I used to think that if i had anything i was “resisting” in a relationship i had to stay to work it out…you know…burn off the karma or get the learning so i wouldn’t manifest the same thing again. then i realized, “ok maybe i need to work on X, but i don’t necessarily need to work on it with *this person*.” that freedom to leave, even while imperfect and seeing some of my own genuine sabotage of the relationship, helped me enormously.

By: blackdog

blackdog — Fri, 07 Mar 2008 18:16:10 +0000

If you start calling it ‘My Pressshhhious,’ we’ll get worried. And the evil eye in the sky might be watching you already when you wear it…

By: bad influence girl

bad influence girl — Fri, 07 Mar 2008 13:14:02 +0000

i eloped once… and i was very sad when (years later after the divorce) the wedding ring was stolen. it had become a symbol of my freedom and willingness to admit when things weren’t doing it for me you know?

and someone stole it along with a bunch of stuff i didn’t give two craps about. so yeah i get what you’re saying a little.

By: chuck

chuck — Fri, 07 Mar 2008 12:37:58 +0000

I wonder how many of your clients remove their wedding rings when they see you?

By: Plain Jane

Plain Jane — Fri, 07 Mar 2008 11:22:44 +0000

I too am a a member of this club. It’s funny that when I was growing up I wanted all of that getting married stuff and when my ex, Henry, finally proposed, I was just… I couldn’t breathe, and not in the happy way. Not only that but the ring was grotesquely large and effing hideous.

I also have an anti-engagement ring, as well. It’s an amber ring I got while at Mt. Vernon. I left it somewhere too, and it feels so weird not to have it on. It’s like a reminder to me that I can be a strong person, and it feels like a part of me is missing when I’m not wearing it.

By: debauchette

debauchette — Fri, 07 Mar 2008 06:24:15 +0000

Oh, not at all.

How about you?

By: Just Wandering...

Just Wandering... — Fri, 07 Mar 2008 06:03:29 +0000

An anti-engagement ring? Nice!

I too broke off an engagement. The ring still sits in a box in a well hidden spot in my room.

Do you ever regret it?

By: debauchette

debauchette — Fri, 07 Mar 2008 05:48:49 +0000

I just didn’t want to marry him. But I questioned myself. I thought I was being resistant to marriage for the wrong reasons. In retrospect, they were the right reasons.

By: KIQE

KIQE — Fri, 07 Mar 2008 05:18:09 +0000

So you walked away because……..you were loosing your soul to someone that was not capable of giving you what you needed? What? Or is this something you would rather left unsaid?