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By: maymay

maymay — Fri, 18 Jan 2008 04:54:51 +0000

Thanks, debauchette. I’m looking forward to reading your responses.

By: debauchette

debauchette — Fri, 18 Jan 2008 02:59:00 +0000

You’ve asked some great questions, May. Right now I’m in transit, but once I get settled I’ll respond to the issues you raise here and in the ‘money’ post, and rather than respond in the comments area, I’ll create a new post. Great questions.

By: maymay

maymay — Thu, 17 Jan 2008 07:40:00 +0000

I actually think it’s rather unfortunate that most people can’t fuck the ones they love the way they’d like and they can’t love the ones they fuck the way they’d like. I’m generally just very hard on the not-being-able-to-do-what-you-want thing in general, though, so that makes sense.

Whenever people make mention that this sort of separation is something they want, I’m kind of taken aback by it. I acknowledge that it may be genuine, but I have a hard time believing it, mostly because I don’t feel similarly.

And frankly, there are too many stereotypes, stories, and other vicarious experiences that have shown me that most people don’t really want that either—which doesn’t mean nobody does, just that it seems that the people who do are in the minority.

But which came first? The value judgement that this separation is bad and wrong or the desire not to do it? The chicken, or the egg?

If you don’t mind my asking, what was it for you? Was it the chicken or the egg?

By: axe

axe — Tue, 15 Jan 2008 01:57:19 +0000

I’m with Wallflower on this one. Very warm here too.

Thank you for the sidewalk tip. I’ve never thought of that. Damn I’m slow.

By: Wallflower

Wallflower — Mon, 14 Jan 2008 19:15:19 +0000

You talk about the people in your life, interactions, simple gestures…, with such understanding and thoughtfulness. So many of your posts leave me warmly introspective (and, of course, other things that go without saying).