Comments on: sleepsex (i). http://debauchette.com/2007/12/sleepfuck-i/ Thu, 03 Jun 2010 17:24:36 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Grace http://debauchette.com/2007/12/sleepfuck-i/comment-page-1/#comment-82 Grace Thu, 24 Apr 2008 02:25:36 +0000 http://debauchette.wordpress.com/2007/12/12/sleepfuck-i/#comment-82 I have only recently come across your site. I read sleepsex iii and identified with your experience. His daytime personality is in control, workaholic, always polite, and reserved. In our first year we had sex in every way, at every opportunity, several times a day and night. After moving to the suburbs he hit a sexual slump. Routine sex every week gave way to once a month, and then once every few months. I fantasised about being with other men. I would masturbate inspite of him. Then I thought that perhaps it was a form of infidelity, and I stopped. Over time he stopped approaching me sexually, and I stopped pushing him. I stopped everything. I discovered then that every now and then we engage in sleepsex which is very hot and reminiscent of the sex we had in our first year together. He wouldn't sleep through it, but would certainly start things in his sleep. It became difficult for me to sleep. I would lie there waiting and hoping that he would feel aroused in his sleep. This wasn't that frequent and so it took me a while before I realised that I needed to stop expecting this from him, because it was making me angry with him. Viviane reflects that she was wrong to believe that sex isn't the most important thing in a marriage. But I love him, and he loves me. To walk away on account of my sexual frustration would be like leaving someone if they suddenly lost a leg, or were paralysed and unable to have sex. (Or did is there more to Vivians comment?) I have only recently come across your site. I read sleepsex iii and identified with your experience. His daytime personality is in control, workaholic, always polite, and reserved. In our first year we had sex in every way, at every opportunity, several times a day and night. After moving to the suburbs he hit a sexual slump. Routine sex every week gave way to once a month, and then once every few months. I fantasised about being with other men. I would masturbate inspite of him. Then I thought that perhaps it was a form of infidelity, and I stopped. Over time he stopped approaching me sexually, and I stopped pushing him. I stopped everything. I discovered then that every now and then we engage in sleepsex which is very hot and reminiscent of the sex we had in our first year together. He wouldn’t sleep through it, but would certainly start things in his sleep. It became difficult for me to sleep. I would lie there waiting and hoping that he would feel aroused in his sleep. This wasn’t that frequent and so it took me a while before I realised that I needed to stop expecting this from him, because it was making me angry with him.

Viviane reflects that she was wrong to believe that sex isn’t the most important thing in a marriage. But I love him, and he loves me. To walk away on account of my sexual frustration would be like leaving someone if they suddenly lost a leg, or were paralysed and unable to have sex. (Or did is there more to Vivians comment?)

]]> By: Viviane http://debauchette.com/2007/12/sleepfuck-i/comment-page-1/#comment-81 Viviane Wed, 19 Dec 2007 16:45:09 +0000 http://debauchette.wordpress.com/2007/12/12/sleepfuck-i/#comment-81 “Sex isn’t the most important thing.” I went into a marriage thinking that. I was so stupid then. “Sex isn’t the most important thing.”

I went into a marriage thinking that. I was so stupid then.

]]> By: a r s e n e http://debauchette.com/2007/12/sleepfuck-i/comment-page-1/#comment-80 a r s e n e Wed, 12 Dec 2007 22:14:17 +0000 http://debauchette.wordpress.com/2007/12/12/sleepfuck-i/#comment-80 How extravagant you are, throwing away men like that because they're not sleeping & fucking at the same time. Some day they may be scarce. Btw, this behavior you write about makes perfect sense. How extravagant you are, throwing away men like that because they’re not sleeping & fucking at the same time. Some day they may be scarce.

Btw, this behavior you write about makes perfect sense.

]]> By: DevilBlueDress http://debauchette.com/2007/12/sleepfuck-i/comment-page-1/#comment-79 DevilBlueDress Wed, 12 Dec 2007 20:50:34 +0000 http://debauchette.wordpress.com/2007/12/12/sleepfuck-i/#comment-79 "Sex isn't the most important thing." Having gone through that, It hurts to see someone else think it. I wrote a post called "Sex doesn't always matter." I had to finally write it before I had any peace. I think I understand a lot. An interesting series here. “Sex isn’t the most important thing.” Having gone through that, It hurts to see someone else think it. I wrote a post called “Sex doesn’t always matter.” I had to finally write it before I had any peace. I think I understand a lot. An interesting series here.

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